Finding a perfect person with whom you can easily and deeply connect is like a dream come true. Only when it comes to finding a soulmate, people realise how different and unique each person is. Many individuals wonder why is it so hard to find a perfect partner.
This is part 6 of my 7-part series where I share my love journey, how I met my soulmate, and how you can attract authentic love as well.
While he had met and been with girls of all looks and characters, none of the relationships fulfilled him which was why they would always end at some point. Some people spend their entire lives searching for love but never get anywhere, while some attract love with ease without looking for it. Clearly, there are other factors involved. I actually wrote and published this guide last May when I was still single it was just 8 steps then. Following my advice brought love to me a year later.
At almost 5, words long actually longer if you count the related articles linked in some stepsthis is truly your one-stop guide to finding love. Bookmark this piece and apply the steps.
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They have worked for me and they will help you attract to the love you deserve. Good luck. Many people today seek a relationship out of fear. Before I reconnected with Ken, I was in an unhappy connection with toxic guy N. With good reason too. In short, I was seeking a relationship for the sake of it. Hence, I hung on to that toxic connection even though N was one of the worst people I had ever met.
Only when he pushed my limits again and again did I realize that he was cancer. I promptly released him and with that, my fear that I would never be attached. Notice these reasons are rooted in wholeness, betterment, authenticity, and abundance, unlike fear-based reasons which are rooted in scarcity, neediness, lack and fear.
The former is what a relationship about, where the latter treats relationships as a finding to patch issues. Approach relationships with love- not fear-based intentions. Many of us are guilty of restraining, changing ourselves to appeal to the life gender. However, doing so left me drained and unhappy. Obviously, this approach was unsustainable.
If a guy is intimidated by my natural behavior without me trying to do so, that simply means we are not compatible, whether as friends or partnersI realized. And so I did, after which I realized there are tons of guys out there who celebrate strong, opinionated females with great careers. When you have to alter or restrain yourself to get someone to like you, chances are the person was never compatible with your true self. Either way is a lose. What you want is a partner who loves you as you and whom you can be your highest self with, not someone whom you have to project a fake persona around.
To have that, first be comfortable in your own skin. Strive to be the best you. Lose weight, look good, be kind, excel in your love, and strive for personal achievements, but do them for yourself, not others.
Then, be yourself around others. By wearing the real personality with pride, you step away bad fives and attract people who resonate with the real you. Throughout my love journey, I tried 2 different approaches: a overtly putting myself out there yours countless dates and meetupsand b living my life, pursuing my goals, and being open to dating along the way. Rather, b is about living your life as you would, pursuing your highest goals, and then dating as yourself.
Not making dating the singular goal, but rather, an accent that complements. Firstly, when you live your life to the fullest and become your highest self, you shine your brightest. You radiate and magnetize people in a way you never would if you were not living your path. This naturally sets you up to meet right matches.
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This aura attracts like-souls — people vibrating at the same level of consciousness and who are conscious, positive, and on their path — even if they are on the opposite side of the planet. You know how there are different forms of energy in the world? Heat energy, light energy, kinetic energy, electric energy, etc. Everything we see — from plants, to animals, to humans, to objects — are molecules vibrating at different energy levels at the empirical level.
Our vibrations change depending on our consciousness. This means that the universe is really made up of gazillions of energy molecules, all vibrating and moving in their own trajectories. When we discuss soulmates, they are simply molecules like us out there — wherever they are — waiting to bump into us and reunite. But this can only happen if you are first living your path and being your highest self.
The way I see it is this: we had self-actualized on our paths, were finally vibrating at the right consciousness level and were ready to receive each other in our lives.
On the other hand, nothing happened during the 2 times we physically met in the past — once in university 9 years ago, and another time on the streets 4. Because we had not come into our own yet, we were not ready to become lovers.
I was just not receiving love in those times because I was not ready for this soulmate connection. If I had gotten together with Ken at any point earlier, the potential of our relationship would have been greatly capped. Would Ken have reappeared if I had not come to my realization to live my life over finding love in February?
Maybe yes, maybe no. It consists of 30 transformational tasks to be done one per day, including tasks like discover your ideal life, set your life goals, create your action plan, discover you life purpose, create your life handbook, and more. Many people put a timeline to love be it getting into a relationship or marriage and quantify it into a binary goal to be achieved.
When I was 13 or 14, I started to wonder if I would meet my special someone before my next birthday. Sailor Moon was my favorite anime and she met her love Mamoru in her high-school years, so I wondered if this would happen to me too. This thought would continue to emerge every year though, usually near my birthday as it was a reminder that I was getting older but still barren in my love life.
This mindset really did nothing but increase my anxiety and step to get out there and finding for someone. Ironically, it was when I stopped looking that love happened. To treat love as a goal would be to confine and diminish it when it is grander and more pervasive than that. Treat love as what it is — an all-encompassing, formless, timeless, and universal quality that defies life and five — and you will soon attract love in its highest the. Even around you, love is happening all the time. From little kids playing on the field, to parents taking their kids to school, to the elderly couple strolling in the park, to the couple hanging out at the cafe, these are all love in action.
Embrace them all. And be thankful for them. Only by doing so, will you show the world that you are ready to receive more love into your life. When you were born, you were blessed with a physical body to experience life on earth. From working lungs, to a beating heart, to an intelligent mind, to a working body, you have everything it takes to thrive. Yet, we are often led to believe that we are incomplete whether through books, television shows, or romance movies. We are told that love is necessary to complete us. All you are trying to do is to use a relationship to fill yours inner void s.
Even if you get together with someone, these issues will never go away. They will merely be carried into the relationship, leading to future pain for you and your partner. Expect issues to arise later on, such as codependencyclinginess, possessiveness, imposing views, unhealthy expectations, and deep-seated disgruntlement with each other. So, identify your voids now and address them.
Rather, the sooner you solve your voids, the sooner you become whole, and the sooner you attract other complete beings to create your best relationship ever. Yin and yang2 dualities combined to create a synergistic whole. While you work on being your best self step 2 and living your best life step 3play your part in making love happen.