Regardless of the seriousness of your relationship, the feeling of not knowing what your partner's thinking is something everyone can all relate to. But let's face it, it's mentally exhausting trying to decode every text or dissect every conversation. And then there's the dilemma of whether you should say something or not?
When I was single for a long time, I used to assume that whenever I eventually found someone who wanted to be with me long-term, I'd be on cloud nine all the time — that I'd be happy simply by virtue of having someone to call my partner.
As I've now learned, I couldn't have been more wrong: long-term relationships are full of ups and downs, and your happiness with your partner can wax and wane over time.
7 s of an unhappy relationship that makes you feel stuck
That being said, learning how to tell if you're truly happy in a relationship is often easier said than done. But what does it mean to be happy in a relationship, and is it the same for every couple? It is feeling that you can share your most vulnerable feelings.
But mostly it is in knowing that you will always return to each other. Of course, everyone has a different personal definition of happinessespecially within the context of a relationship and thus it's impossible to say exactly what it means to be truly happy with your partner.
Ultimately, your happiness is something only you can measure — but it's not always easy to reflect and be honest with yourself about whether you're really happy, or merely content in your relationship. If you've been feeling meh about your relationship and are worried you're not being fully honest with yourself, here are seven s experts say you're not as happy in your relationship as you think you are — whether you want to stay and work on your relationship or move on and find a new happiness elsewhere is up to you.
The longer you're with someone, the more you can learn about them — but if you notice that you've stopped feeling curious about your partner and no longer have an active interest in getting to know them even better, that could be a red flag. But the amount of info you know shows how much space your partner takes up in your inner world If you can't answer how your partner 'would' react in certain situations, or if you don't know things about their fears, anxieties, hopes, and dreams, you may not be as connected and therefore not as happy in your relationship as you could be.
It might sound counterintuitive, but conflict in a relationship can actually be healthy: it's crucial to be able to communicate when there's an issue in your relationship.
Feeling unsatisfied in your relationship
If you and your partner never argue — and you avoid doing so at all costs — that could be a that you're unhappy and just don't care to better your relationship. One way to tell is to practice discussing mildly difficult topics and working your way up to more intensely difficult topics.
One red flag that you're not so much independent as you are disinterested in your relationship? When you're really happy with your partner, you'll want to do anything you can to make sure they feel happy, too.
Doing little, thoughtful things in a relationship can go a long way, and it's telling if you no longer make an effort to do them anymore. One major red flag that you're not really as happy in your relationship as you might want to believe? If you feel restless, and start imagining yourself without your partner by your side in the hypothetical future or even the present.
In a healthy relationship, your partner should be someone you want to share things, both good and bad, with — and if you no longer feel the desire to share your life updates with your partner or worse, you feel uncomfortable doing sothat might mean you aren't happy in your relationship anymore. Ultimately, only you can decide how happy — or unhappy — you are in your relationship.
Sometimes, quitters do win.
The most important thing to remember? It's OK to put your own happiness first, and if you realize it's time to move on and find a partner who truly makes you happy, you should feel no guilt in doing exactly that.
By Laken Howard.